Category Archives: sex
The Condom Cop-out
I keep hearing from both men I meet and my girlfriends, that men complain about condoms. A common gripe is that guys can’t stay hard wearing one. I am obviously not a man and don’t know what it feels like, but to me, that sounds like a mental block. I would think a baby or… Read More
Losing Weight is No Longer My New Years Resolution
Casual Sex Ended My Dieting Fixation Obtaining a certain size or weight was my New Years Resolution for a large part of my life. Thinking back, my body fixation started after my parents went through a divorce, when I was 6. My dad said he was leaving because my mom had gained weight and didn’t… Read More
Consent for Women Outside of the Bedroom
When I first read this article on Vox about consent violations in the blockbuster movie A Star is Born, I thought it was interesting. I personally had not thought of the author’s observations of the situations as consent issues when I watched the movie. That was, until something happened to me. I typically think of… Read More
Intimacy, Struggles, and Passion- An Interview with Artist Veronica Blanco
Art That Tells a Story I was recently introduced to the sensual art of Veronica Blanco of Toronto, Canada. I love featuring other women in business and the adult industry. I recently caught up with Veronica for an interview. I was so intrigued about her inspiration. Veronica, I love your work, what is your background? … Read More
Kissing, Casual Sex, and Intimacy
What do you avoid when you are trying to keep your heart out of sex? I have heard that teens give blow jobs as the new “good night kiss” and partake in anal sex instead of vaginal intercourse. I have even heard that boys are telling girls they will still be a virgin if they… Read More
Staying In Your Sexless Marriage Is Not Benefiting Your Kids
I often speak to people in a sexless marriage. A sexless marriage is one which sex happens once a month or less. Both men and women tell me they can’t leave the relationship, and ‘stay because of the kids’. What kind of example does this set for the children? I believe it perpetuates mediocre relationships… Read More
Welcome Back, Sex!
I usually have a few lovers laying around. Or more like around somewhere, when we can get to each other (it is LA, after all and nothing is close). We sext, we email, I am on Tinder occasionally, and I tend to have one or two in the pipeline. The pipeline was bust this time… Read More
Hand Massage Hits the Right Spot
A Favorite Quick Tip! Non-sexual touching has been used as an erotic interlude since Masters and Johnson. These days we are starved for touch, more than ever. We live in cyberspace, buried in our devices. I urge you to connect with your lover tonight. Sometimes one or both of you just don’t have the energy… Read More
Lube Can Make it Better
Recently, UFC fighter Rhonda Rousey thought she was doing women “a favor” by telling her Maxim readers, “What should a guy always do? Take his time. In general, a girl takes a minute. He needs to get her ready. You should never need lube in your life. If you need lube, then you’re being lazy…and… Read More