Creating a Fake Commute for Self-Care

9 or 10 months into our work from home world, we have learned that we are resilient. Life changes and so do we.  While I have worked from home or wherever I lay my head for the past 10 years, that didn’t mean I didn’t drive… A LOT. I live in Southern California. Until it […]

How to Get Your New Years Kiss and Then What to Do Next

This might be the most anticipated New Year’s Eve since Y2K. The world is looking forward to a calmer 2021 for sure. Eminently there are no parties and festivities like normal, because nothing about 2020 has been normal.  But that doesn’t have to not include a New Year’s Kiss.  So what about that New Year’s […]

The Condom Cop-out

I keep hearing from both men I meet and my girlfriends, that men complain about condoms. A common gripe is that guys can’t stay hard wearing one. I am obviously not a man and don’t know what it feels like, but to me, that sounds like a mental block. I would think a baby or […]

Losing Weight is No Longer My New Years Resolution

Casual Sex Ended My Dieting Fixation Obtaining a certain size or weight was my New Years Resolution for a large part of my life. Thinking back, my body fixation started after my parents went through a divorce, when I was 6. My dad said he was leaving because my mom had gained weight and didn’t […]

Consent for Women Outside of the Bedroom

When I first read this article on Vox about consent violations in the blockbuster movie A Star is Born, I thought it was interesting. I personally had not thought of the author’s observations of the situations as consent issues when I watched the movie. That was, until something happened to me. I typically think of […]

Sexy Secret #5 for Insane Confidence

Welcome back! Here is my 5th and final confidence tip! Drum roll please…. The 5th Sexy Secret is to make eye contact. Not just make eye contact, but actually connect and hold eye contact. It is an important skill that exudes confidence and assurance. Direct eye contact can denote cultural or social hierarchy, however I challenge […]

Sexy Secret #4 to Insane Confidence

My 4th Sexy Secret is Don’t Hesitate. Make a decision and stick with it. Hesitation connotates fear of failure. Often we worry too much about being perfect and it is easy to get stuck in that perfection. Confidence is actually more important than competence. A confident person will often surpass someone with all the answers. […]

Sexy Secret #3 for Insane Confidence

My 3rd  Sexy Secret to Insane Confidence is to wear beautiful undergarments under your clothes. Only you know what is there, but it improves how you hold yourself and how you feel. It is that little Je ne sais quoi that French women know. French women spend thousands of dollars on beautiful lingerie, just for […]